Must Read! 10 Ways to Break-up with “Shyness” & Marry “Confidence”

by Uche Onegeria 6 May , 2016  

Confidence is one thing that you need to Succeed in Life. It simply means being able to sell or project a very positive image about yourself to the world in an attractive/appealing way (think “Laws of attraction”). The world has so many problems, and helping you sell yourself or present yourself positively is not one of them. That is a job for you. If you do not believe me, read the following quotes from some of the best minds to have ever walked this planet.

“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.” by William Jennings Bryan
“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” by Vincent Van Gogh

Aspire to reach outside your comfort zone. Your safe bubble is actually your coffin. Remember most introverts really enjoy it when they go out. Their main problem is leaving their nest.


1. Tell yourself the truth about your situation (if you truly lack confidence). Admit that you have a problem then seek solutions.

2. Read vastly to educate yourself and also strive to improve your skillsets so you can be a contributing member of any group or at least be able to argue intelligently. You have heard this before – no knowledge is a waste. When you know more, you open doors to a diversely rich group that you can accommodate.

3. Understand yourself first, then you can trust yourself.

4. Be happy! Act happy!! A happy person has many friends because people are drawn to them. Also aspire to truly care for people (when it is genuine, it shows). Life is about people and as you understand them better, you become more comfortable around them.

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5. Stop procrastinating; the situation will never be right. If your boss asks you to make a brief speech, do it. No mistake from such actions can kill you. It will only make you know where you need to improve on. Out up your hands in class or a group to ask questions (but remember it is important to listen first). Strive to come up with smart questions to ask in every instance. Think of it like you are contributing vital information to the world/group. Be the person that comes up with ideas others might not consider.

6. Attempt to approach people first to initiate communication....(do not cower in a corner and..wither like a leaf). Make eye contact with people and smile. You can start with a compliment. “Oh! I love your shirt…..” or “what book are you reading?” – if they are reading a book… You can discuss the weather, politics..etc. Practise until it comes natural to you.

7. Strive to have an open mind so you will be able to communicate with any group respectfully.

8. Strive to be independent. You can find what you love (or what you might be interested in), then do it…preferably alone. Do not hide under the cover of your friends or groups.

9. Study other confident people and emulate their styles…or seek answers into what makes them confident.

10. Remember that Rome was not built in a day. If you are truly shy and lack confidence, you can turn your life around to be more confident only if you adopt a few (you do not need a lot) life changes.

Confidence can take you from Rags to Riches. Have you ever wondered why someone you are smarter than earns more money than you do…even though you work harder as well? They are probably able to stand up for themselves. You are not! by Uche Onegeria


  1. Aww… It's our upbringing. Almost every Nigerian child is shy…
    But nne, being given huge opportunities at work to take initiatives has helped me a lot. Once you take small measures, you gradually conquer & undertake more challenges.. Just like your YouTube video; the first of many :).
    Congrats babe..x

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